Fwd: How to approach a girl you don't know before and win her heart

Culled From:	Madubuko Jaybee

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Relationship: You just walked in an environment and saw this girl you are attracted to, you will be like " let me go and talk to her" but believe me, the possiblity of you getting this girl will be very low  if you're not familiar with these tips I'm going to reveal to you now because walking up to a girl you've never spoken to before is like taking a dip in icy water.

It makes you nervous.Your heart starts beating faster than you can count. And your stomach inches closer to your tongue with each step you take. But as a guy, knowing how to approach a girl is one of the most important things to know in the dating world.

Now, let's blog it. I'll teach you to keep it simple, and help you win her heart even before you say 'hello'.   They are most of those things you tagged unimportant but they are..

Yes, talking to a girl who's a stranger is not easy. But then again, if you know just how to do it without appearing like you're picking her up, you'll realize just how easy the whole game can be
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The first to do if you want to approach a girl you don't know before is to..

• Deal With Yourself


Before you're ever going to win a woman's heart, you've got to deal with your own. I'm not saying that you've got to be fully mature to pursue a woman, or no man would ever get married. What I'm saying is, be confidence, act maturely, Don't rush. Girls loves guys who are confidence of themselves and it will assure her that you can protect her, so when you finally walk up to her, she will feel comfortable talking with you..

• She need to know you're interested:

Walking up to a lady and started talking without her having a hint of your approach can't walk in most situation. You may have watched that in the movie happening but in real life is not going to happen that way. A girl needs to know that you're interested in her and you'r going to approach her so that she can assess you. Don't make the mistake of approaching a girl out of the blue and asking her out, Bumping on her will make her remember what her mother told her about guys to be on the defensive and that exactly is what she is going to do if you don't let her know you're interested in her.You need to let the girl know you're going to approach her. So warm her up to using theses steps. * Start Staring Game :When the girl is aware of your presence, it is time to play the staring game, Stare at her now and then just to let her know that you're trying to catch her attention. Be sneaky and discreet, and always look away just as soon as she catches your eye. You'll rouse her curiosity and that'll force her to look at you now and then to see if you're still watching her, then you're a good to go but if she stare at you back with a dirty kind of looks, there is no point approaching her because most often such scenario end up in disaster, just avoid her, simple.*Appear awkward. If you're with your friends, look at her now and then, but appear like your distracted and not able to focus on the conversation you're having with your friends. By doing that, you're making her see that she's on your mind and you're too distracted to focus on your friends. That's subtle flattery! You are surprise right?* Smile at her. Exchange eye contact now and then, one or two times every minute and no more than that, and when you feel pretty courageous, flash a tiny smile from the corner of your lip for a second, and let her notice your smile. Don't give her a big grin though, a malicious big grin at this stage will scare any girl away.

These steps above are all about building the connection and letting her know you're interested in her. And at the same time, it'll also help you understand if she too is really interested in you. If she responds to your gestures similarly, it's a sign that she's interested in talking to you too, the revise is the case if she act responsds otherwise. Then try your luck somewhere because not all girls will be interested in you.

Now is the time to walk up and start a conversations with  the girl

Now that you've built the attraction and the chemistry, all you need to do is walk up to her and say something. Use these tips to approach her and start the right conversation.

• *Waiting for the right hour. Sometimes, all you need to do is wait for the girl to give you a chance to talk to her. If she's really interested in you and wants to talk to you, she'd create enough opportunities for you to walk up to her. She could do this by walking to the ladies room alone, stepping away from her friend if she is with them pretending to have a call or wants to dail someone on her mobile or even by just smiling at you and leaving the place.

It's always easier to talk to a girl when she's by herself then we she is with friends. There are no distractions from her friends or awkward moments because she's already expecting you to approach her. Remember to be confident enough, Remove that fear of rejection in you .forget picking her afar, not all girls like that, beside I doesn't work for me, so I won't recommend it for you.

• *If she is with other girls: Walk up to her with your gaze fixed on her confidently. Walk right into the herd, but look straight at her and only her. Look at anyone else, and the envious friends would pounce on you with snide remarks because you didn't pick them to flirt with.

"Hey…i'm Jaybee, I really don't mean to interrupt you girls, but could I speak with you for a minute? I just won't be able to forgive myself if I left this place without getting to know you…"

Use any line you want and it'll work as long as you say it firmly, but remember to make her feel special by saying something that reveals how badly you want to get to know her. And unless her friends seem to take your side by nudging her towards you or by smiling widely, completely avoid looking at them. You'd only be asking for trouble.

• Buy her a drink. This is something that can work very well at a bar, as long as you've already built the eye staring up and roused her interest. Buy her the same drink she's already having, and ask the waiter to offer it to her.

When she accepts the drink and looks towards you smiling, that's your cue. Don't wait any longer or she'll think you're a coward. But if you buy her a drink without building the connection first, you'll just come off as a creepy guy.

• * A twosome situation. If there are just two girls, walk right up to them while staring at the girl you like. If the girl's interested in you too, her friend will slip away quietly with an excuse. But even if the friend decides to stay, just introduce yourself and say something similar to the line used in, But this time, include the girl's friend in your conversation and make her feel good about herself too. But don't forget to keep the focus on the girl you like!

Tips to good conversation with her

The steps below will guild you over your conversation with the girl. One thing is to build  chemistry of attraction and another thing is to prove it during your conversation with her.

• Be unpredictable. Girls love anticipation, drama and excitement, so do not do anything that girls will be able to predict.Instead, do completely unpredictable things that will keep the excitement between you intact for a long time.make her laugh, girls loves it well.
• Flaunt your sense of humor.Another great way to attract a girl would be by displaying a good sense of humor. Laughter can easily create a strong connection and can ensure that conversations always run smoothly. So conquer her heart, if you want to win a girl over with ease, then this would be the best way to impress her and make her think you are funny and interesting. Besides, making girls laugh will make them feel great and will, in turn, make them see you in a positive light.

Keep these conversation moves in mind and it'll definitely do you good. But if you want to make sure it works all the time, build the tension and the mystery first with your glances and your eye contact. You'll always end up impressing the girl even before you approach her.

Use these tips on how to approach a girl you don't know and with a few attempts, you'll have no trouble walking up to any girl you like and impressing her within minutes of making eye contact with her!

My Comment...If you dont try, you cant succeed!


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