::How to Deal with Jealousy in Relationships

From:	Madubuko Jaybee

Jealousy is a symptom of insecurity, it's different from envy. Jealousy is a killer, a destroyer, it makes someone to act stupid. A jealous person is a desperate person who can do anything to satisfy his/her inner mind. Research shows that  Most broken marriages/ relationships today were caused be jealousy and lack of understanding. Have you experienced it? You are at a party and someone is friendly and you smile. Your partner thinks that you are betraying him/her. Or your partner tells you a funny story about a former lover and you feel threatened. You feel the anger and the anxiety rising inside you and you don't know what to do.Once you start doing this, then you start to see everything as a threat to your happiness and the little green eyed monster inside you starts to gain control and dictate your every move.
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Learning how to deal with jealousy in a relationship is a tough road, especially if you are with someone who means the sun, earth and moon to you but with this tips from About.com you can ward off those jealous thoughts.

• Recognize Why You're Jealous

People will rarely go out of their ways to make you feel jealous. Instead, jealousy in relationships usually comes from insecurity that you feel about yourself or about your relationship. When you feel a pang of jealousy, try to figure out what's really at the root of it. You'll probably find that solving the problem involves changing something about you rather than changing the way your girlfriend or the people around her act.

• Be Proud of who you are- Build Up Your Self-Esteem

Confident people aren't jealous because they know they don't have a reason to be. Take a little time every day to do stuff that makes you feel good about yourself. When insecure thoughts enter your head, try to push them out. Little by little, your confidence will build, and you'll care less about what other people think.

• Stop Comparing yourself with others

You're probably tempted to compare yourself to the other girls in your boyfriend's life, and to keep double-checking to make sure your boyfriend thinks you're prettier and cooler than they are. Snap out of it! When it comes to dating, people can't be compared like that. No matter what your boyfriend's exes and female friends are like, he likes you for you.

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• Don't be selfish- Put Yourself in Other People's Shoes

If your girlfriend has an ex-boyfriend who wants her back, think about howyou'd feel if you were him: probably pretty hopeless and depressed. You have more reason to feel bad for him than to be angry at him.

• Always Remember that Acting Jealous Doesn't Help Anything

In fact, jealousy in relationships only makes things worse - especially if it changes the way you act around your boyfriend or girlfriend. Why ruin a perfectly good relationship with negative thoughts? Get positive! Here are some tips to point you in the right direction.


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